More than ever, rape must be taught as a black and white concept — one without any gray area or room for error. Ahead, learn what other sexual acts (besides intercourse) qualify as non-consensual.
1. Sex that secretly takes safety out of the equation.
Sexual Trend Stealthing
Anew sex act has come to the forefront called “stealthing,” the act of a man secretly or stealthily removing the condom during sex. Lawmakers are currently trying to classify the act as rape because it can be considered “penetration” of a certain kind without consent.
2. Sex without verbal consent.
First and foremost, both parties must agree to sex clearly and explicitly. A recent study showed that 64 percent of female college students give consent verbally, whereas other studies show that men tend to rely more on nonverbal cues. Only 17 percent of students, however, believe that explicit verbal consent is required for intercourse.
Regardless of the stats, the bottom line is that without a clear “yes” or “no,” there is assumption, not consent, and therefore: rape.
3. Forced sex in a serious relationship.
We often think of rape as happening between two strangers, or people who just meet one night. Though this may be the case, rape often happens in serious relationships, such as marriage. Regardless of the couple’s title or status, both parties are able to decline sex at any time.
4. Forced sex when drunk.
Many rape stories reveal that the person forcing themselves on the other thinks its OK to do so simply because of the presence of alcohol. Rape is rape, whether one, two or twelve drinks in (Also, you can’t legally consent to sex if you’re under the influence).
5. Other forms of forced sexual activity.
Many would argue that rape doesn’t only involve sexual intercourse. Oral sex, for instance, can be forced on a partner, as well as inappropriate sexting.
6. Sex that requires coercion.
If you have to be convinced over and over again to jump into bed with someone, chances are, you probably don’t want to do it. There’s a reason why California passed the Yes Means Yes law back in 2014, which goes beyond “no means no” and requires “affirmative consent.” Bottom line: If you’re giving into sex simply because your partner won’t stop trying to convince you, or making you feel bad because you’re not, it’s rape.