How do you look in the eyes of your Ex during the break up? If you look unwilling to accept the break up and desperate you could shut all doors for any future with your Ex. But if you show compassion with the willingness to accept their
decision that will go a long way towards fixing the relationship and may open the door to show your Ex you still care for them.
Below are 3 qualities a person looks for in their partner and lover. Each of them has a brief explanation with them to help you think before you act impulsively. These explanations may help you gather your thoughts enough to be that person you once were back when your Ex first fell in love with you. Then you will be able to show your Ex you still care for them.
1. A caring heart and soul.
The most necessary quality a person usually looks for in that special someone is his or her heart and soul. When your Ex met you maybe he or she seen in you a person who was able to show them a special kind or love? You may have gotten together in the first place because you both shared a mutual love and respect for each other.
If your Ex sensed a change in your heart and soul it could have been the core reason why you and your Ex started arguing and eventually broke up. Trying to push your way back into his or her heart right after the break up will confirm what they were sensing. Respecting their decision and taking the time to let things settle will give your Ex some time to start thinking about those feelings you guys once shared.
2. Some one you can communicate with.
Communication is a key part to a lasting relationship. Many relationships communication is important to bring couples closer. Especially during hard times good communication makes it easier to discussing problems so you both can work things out..
When you and your Ex got together surely you both had plenty to talk about. When things started going bad in the relationship were you able to talk about it? Had your communication still been good or was your time together filled with silence most the time?
Trying to communicate now right after a break up is a bad idea. Both of you are really upset and can say things you don’t mean. You are probably not able to think straight and saying something can look needy and outrageously self-serving. Your Ex is just fed up with the direction the relationship heading. His or her defenses are heightened to filter you out and any attempt to “just talk” may end up making them treat you cruelly just to get rid of you.
3. Sharing similar interests.
Sharing similar interests will help in strengthening a relationship. It allows you both the opportunity to do those special things you share as a couple once in a while. When your Ex first fell in love with you did you both have like things you were able to do together? When was the last time you made plans with your Ex to do any of them? Not as frequently or not at all? Or maybe you liked doing these things with your friends over her?.
Now that you are broken up don’t try showing up where you use to share those interests with your ex. You will only end up more desperate when your Ex is not there. Or even worse you will be crushed even more when he or she is there and ignores you, shows up there with a date, or leaves you there with your mouth open. Just let them have their time and space to cool down. Chances are they will miss you. If they start to miss you they will welcome bumping into you at a later date. If not then you are more prepared to accept things and move on with your life.
So if you want to show your ex you still care about them do it when you can be the person you were when they first fell in love with you. Give them time to disprove their decisions to break things off and start missing you first. Then wait for them to bump into you.