Do you want a partner who needs you? One who always agrees with everything you say? Someone who puts you on a pedestal? One who is always putting your wants and needs ahead of their own?
Do you want to be that kind of partner?
That might sound wonderful initially. As you think about it, you may start to realize that a partner like that could never be an equal partner. That person would only be reflecting what they think you want. How can a satisfying relationship be built with someone like that? They are so busy trying to make you happy that they forget to let their guard down and let you really get to know them. They’re often insecure and hesitant to let their own thoughts be known.
Being Happy With Yourself Is the Difference
We are social creatures and desire relationships with others. Many people rely on their relationships to bring joy into their lives. While some relationships are very fulfilling and can increase your satisfaction, the source of happiness must come from within.
Accepting responsibility for your own happiness comes first before any relationship can be expected to bring happiness. Unfortunately, many people are dissatisfied with their lives. They hope that finding the right person will make the difference and that the right person will make them happy.
When relationships begin, some feel a certain euphoria and often mistake this excitement of the new relationship for true happiness. Sadly, those feelings often fade.
Real happiness comes from self-acceptance. It comes from being comfortable with who you are and knowing that you are worthy of love. When you figure out what you really want from life and treat yourself with love and respect you gain self-esteem.
Self-esteem is self-confidence and self-confidence is sexy.
People with a healthy self-esteem are desirable. When you are comfortable with who you are and know what you want out of life, you will be a better partner for someone else. You will also be more likely to be in a relationship that aligns with your values and what you want in life.
Your level of satisfaction with yourself determines the satisfaction you will get out of your relationships. Build a happy relationship with yourself first. Only then will you have truly happy relationships with others.