In the early stages of a relationship, everything will feel so sweet and so romantic… like a page pulled out of a splendid fairy tale.
Sadly this giddy feeling often fades off at some point, leaving the partners stripped and wondering if they are still in love at all. This is usually the stage where many relationships crash.
But according to couples who have been together for 30 years and more, this is what love feels like with the right person… the one with whom you can spend forever.
1. Feels like you’ve known each other forever
Mrs. Nnena says when she started dating her husband in 1984, it felt like they had known each other forever and even when they got married in 1985 it only felt natural. 32 years later, their three daughters are now happily married and they are still very happy together.
2. Accept each other
Partners that will last together accept each other the way they are from the onset. They take themselves as they are – no attempt to change or turn the other person around to suit their ‘taste’
“He always accepted me with the baggage I came with. When I look at my husband today, I see the same guy I fell in love with 53 years ago.”Says Elizabeth.
3. You don’t just love each other
If a relationship is going to last long, you’ll discover from an early stage that you and that partner will love each other, and also likeeach other.
Mrs. Suliat [not her real identity] says “after 39 years, my husband and I still like each other a lot. We’re together almost every moment of every day and still find laughter.”
4. They do little things to make you happy
Love remains to be found in the little things and one way to identify a partner who’ll be with you for a long, long time is their ability and willingness to do little things to make you happy.
“After almost half a century together, I would marry my husband all over again. He knows how much pleasure I [find in little things]. After all these years, he still adores me and I adore him.” Says Naomi, married for 43 years.
5. Similar values
When you find someone with whom you have similar goals, similar ideas and a significant merge of values and things that mean a lot to you, then you can be sure that you will be with such person for long.
“Too many people expect perfection from their spouse, but people aren’t perfect. The fact that we wanted the same things out of life was the sign to me that we were meant to be.” Says Nana, a grandma married for 41 years.Dating & relationships are not the same.