Relationships fall apart because of many different reasons. If you think it’s always because of lying and cheating, or money problems, or trust issues – it’s not.
What don’t many couples realize? There are small, everyday habits which kill a relationship little by little. To create a healthy and lasting relationship, it is important for couples to be aware of the so-called relationship killers. These things should not be overlooked or taken for granted. They should be confronted and addressed before it’s too late.
Not familiar with these relationship killers? Here are some of the most common you should be aware of and the fix to these habits.
SKIPPING ALONE TIME
One of the most important things that can help a relationship survive — is giving each other enough space! Even if you are in a relationship, it is vital that you enjoy some me-time every now and then. You need to be alone sometimes. This will give you the opportunity to think, to enjoy your hobbies and the things you love and pursue your passion. In short, this should be a time for you to grow as an individual.
Being in a relationship means you do not only grow together as a couple, but you must also grow as individuals. However, you also have to make sure that you don’t grow apart by allowing too much space. It should always be just enough. Too much of anything is always unhealthy.
Fixation is another relationship killer that many couples overlook. At the start of your relationship, you appreciate and love specific qualities about your partner. But as time goes by, you may notice them changing and evolving. These things are natural because people change and things change.
During the course of your relationship, you will also discover more negative traits about your partner. And you may have various reactions towards these things. You probably wish they remain the way they were before when you met; or may wish for them to change; or worse, you might just give up on them right away.
It is never easy to deal with change. But if you truly love someone, you must be willing to accept everything about them. You don’t just love them for who they were at the beginning of your relationship. You love them for who they are now and who they are yet to be.
ASSUMING YOU KNOW EVERYTHING ABOUT YOUR PARTNER
Yes, you may have been together for several years now. But it doesn’t mean that you already know everything about your partner. Many couples make the mistake of assuming that they know each other so well already. And then, they stop learning more about each other and they stop being curious. This is alarming.
A healthy relationship means you spend time to talk every single day. You must spend some time for good and meaningful conversations other than just the serious stuff. Recall how it was when you were still dating. Imagine that you are still at that stage of trying to get to know each other.
IGNORING MINOR ANNOYANCES
Some couples have the tendency to ignore little annoyances because they think that they are not a big deal. This is another major mistake that many couples make. But overlooking those things can be dangerous. Over time, these things will pile up and they will eat up your relationship little by little.
If these little problems are not addressed, they will blow up in the long run. This could result in your relationship falling apart. To keep your relationship healthy, don’t ignore the small stuff. Take time to discuss these things, but also make sure you do it in a constructive way.
WAITING FOR OCCASIONS TO MAKE EACH OTHER FEEL SPECIAL
Who says there always has to be occasions to make each other feel loved? You don’t have to wait for anniversaries, birthdays or Valentine’s to be romantic and loving to each other. Every day is an opportunity to make your significant other feel valued. You don’t have to do something extravagant. It could be as simple as a kiss on the cheek or a thank you note to let them know you are thankful for having them in your life.