According to some experts, it’s the very little things that can make or break a romantic relationship and in these days of constant pressure and heavy restraints on time, it’s those little things that get forgotten. Sure, you may be an attentive listener, you may be honest and faithful, but when did you last buy your partner a sweet romantic gift, or even just say I love you? It’s those little things that we think are so unimportant, that are actually very important indeed. Read on, and we will tell you about ten things you can do to improve your romantic relationship.
1. Don’t take a single thing for granted
The biggest mistake that people make in romantic relationships is that they start to take things for granted. Don’t just assume that, just because your partner is still with you, they are happy. You need to talk to your partner and you really do need to work on a relationship to keep it healthy and strong. If you just take it for granted that everything is running smoothly, you may be in for a nasty surprise some day.
2. Tell your partner how you feel about them
In the same way that shouldn’t take your partner for granted, you shouldn’t assume that your partner knows how you feel either. Everyone needs to feel wanted and loved, so it’s important that you tell your partner how much you need them and how much you love them. It’s equally important to talk about the things that make you unhappy, and not bottle them up and let them become a problem.
3. Show your affection
The little physical signs of affection can mean a lot in a relationship as well. Things like a hand on the shoulder, a light peck on the cheek, or holding hands as you walk down a street. In themselves, they are very small gestures, but they convey the love and affection that you have for your partner without the need for any words.
4. Accept your partner’s flaws and shortcomings
Everyone has their flaws and their shortcomings, so give your partner a break and accept theirs gracefully. Constant nagging, even about the smallest of things, will eventually wear a person down and they will get tired of it. Remember, you have your own flaws too, so accept each other for who you are and learn to love each other’s flaws just as much as you love the good aspects of each other.
5. Make time alone your priority
However busy you both are with your work and other commitments, make sure that put aside some time to be alone together. You need time to talk about what is going in your lives outside of the relationship and time to simply enjoy each other’s company. Put aside at least one night a week when you will either go out on a date together, or even just sit at home together. It doesn’t really matter too much what you do, so long as you get some quality time alone together.
6. Buy gifts
Surprise gifts are a wonderful way to show how much you care and they show that you were thinking of your partner, even when they are not around. It could be something as simple as their favourite candy, or a DVD you know that they having been meaning to watch. In some ways, the smaller, less expensive gifts mean a lot more than the big ones. When your partner knows that you think about them all the time, it will make them feel great about themselves and they will treasure the relationship even more.
7. Tell them why you love them
Don’t forget to tell your partner what it is about them that you love. A romantic relationship isn’t just about the love and kisses; it’s also about encouraging and supporting each other. Tell your partner that you are proud of them and how much you appreciate the things that they do for you. If you both feel that the relationship is making you stronger, the relationship itself will become stronger too.
8. Make the most of the short times you get together
With a little bit of thought and a few minor changes to your schedules, you could probably make more of the time you have together in the mornings and the evenings. If you both got up together at the same time in the mornings, you could perhaps have breakfast together. If you switched off the TV when you have your evening meal, you’d get more time to talk to each other. With just a few small changes to your routine, you could find that have a lot more time together and that would help to strengthen your relationship.
9. Don’t argue about the small stuff
If you find that the smallest disputes seem somehow to escalate into a big argument, you both need to find a way to call a halt to the petty arguments before they get out of control. If you are not careful, bickering over the small stuff can become a habit and it will damage a romantic relationship in the long run.
10. Apply the rule of equality
The simplest way to improve a romantic relationship is to treat your partner in the same that you would like to be treated. If you both follow that simple rule, then you can’t go far wrong. That means giving each other respect, sharing chores equally, and understanding that we all need to feel loved and appreciated. Successful romantic relationships don’t just happen. They need to be worked on.