Congratulations. You are one of the very few men in the world who are lucky enough to have landed a quality girl that you’re compatible with. Everything seems to be going well and you’re happy. You’re incredibly content with the state of things and you hope that things just carry on this way. There is a sense of stability, security, and consistency in your relationship and you wouldn’t want anything to change for the moment. But then out of the blue, she just gets up and bolts out of the relationship. You didn’t see it coming. She exhibited no signs. Or did she?
While relationships have the potential to be incredibly great and enriching social experiences, they also have the power to overwhelm people. You have to consider the possibility that while everything seems fine and dandy to you, your girl may not be exactly sharing the same sentiments. You have to be open to the idea that while you aren’t experiencing any problems in the relationship, it may be because you are the actual problem. So how do you stop these surprise exits from happening to you? Women aren’t typically known to just get up and leave on a whim. They aren’t usually as impulsive and as rash as men are when it comes to love.
In fact, a lot of women have the strength to stick things out in relationships even when things get tough. So if she left you, it is highly likely that she had been planning it for quite a while. She gave you a few opportunities to change your ways, but you never took your chances. Eventually, she just got fed up and so she left. All relationships are unique, and women can choose to leave for a number of reasons. It can be difficult to generalize as to why girls leave, but there are a few emerging trends here.
1. You are always acting moody.
You are always creating negative vibrations everywhere you go. Remember that not too many people are fond of negative energy. If you are always espousing negative energy whenever you’re around her, you can’t expect her to stick around for too long.
2. You get caught lying to her too much.
Dishonesty has no place in any loving relationship. You shouldn’t even be lying to her in the first place. And yet, you do it on a consistent basis and you’re always getting caught. She just isn’t going to stand for that kind of behavior.
3. You are a little too tightly wound.
Learn to let loose and live things up a little. Go on an adventure. Stop feeling the need to control the situation. Stop being so serious. Learn to be immature and be childish every once in a while. It eases the tension in any relationship.
4. You are boring and predictable.
You don’t make an effort to actually bring some spice into the relationship. You have settled for a boring and predictable routine. No one ever likes to be bored and so don’t be surprised if she leaves you for the prospect of a more exciting life.
5. You don’t make an effort to listen to her.
Have you ever tried being ignored even though you felt a substantial need to express yourself? It’s frustrating, isn’t it? That’s how she feels every time you choose not to listen to her when she wants to talk to you. As a partner, she is always expecting you to be there for her when she needs to get something off her chest. When you don’t listen to her, she ends up feeling like you don’t value her opinion and that you are a selfish individual.
6. You Criticize her too often.
You are just a little too loose with your criticisms and your judgements. You always make her feel bad about who she is as a person and she needs a break from all the pressure. You need to make an effort to build her up to be a strong and confident individual. You shouldn’t be tearing her down.
7. You refuse to open up with her about sensitive matters.
If you just refuse to open up to her, then you are essentially telling her that you don’t trust her enough to actually allow yourself to be vulnerable to her. She will end up feeling like she doesn’t matter much to you because you just won’t let her into your world.
8. You don’t spend enough time with her.
Time is always the best thing you could ever give a person. If you don’t give her the time that she needs from you, don’t be surprised if she goes looking for something who will.
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