Do you feel like you’re ready to move it to the next level and spend the rest of your life with him, but don’t understand why he hasn’t popped the question yet?
Do you worry that everything feels so right between you, but that there’s something holding him back from proposing to you?
Are you simply wondering if it will ever happen?
If so, keep in reading because you’re in the right place…
When he refers to both of you as “we” rather than “ou and me” then this is an indication that he sees you as one rather than two separate entities. While it may seem that this is just a simple pronoun he is using, it is more than that as it tells you how much he is involved and invested in the relationship. Many married couples use the word “we” when talking about themselves as a couple because they see themselves as a team who make decisions together.
For example, a friend asks your man “do you have any plans for a holiday this year?” and your man responds with “we’re thinking of going to Greece in the summer” instead of “I’m thinking of going to Greece in the summer”. This shows that he is thinking of you both when answering questions or talking about decisions.
One of the more reassuring signs is that he believes in marriage and hasn’t ever said that he would never get married or has spoken negatively about marriage. Sometimes this fear can be the biggest hurdle to get around when trying to make a man commit. It is an advantage if your man already believes in marriage.
Rising divorce rates and cost of weddings can put a lot of men off the thought of getting married and can’t see the sanctity of marriage. If your man doesn’t have these fears and has either mentioned or hinted that marriage is worth fighting for then you know he believes in it.
I know a lot of men who view marriage as a bit of paper and can’t see the point of it, especially if you are already living together or have kids together and living as a married couple already. If this is the case, you need to remind him that marriage is about a lot more than a piece of paper and remind him of how much it means to you.
A very clear indication as to whether your man believes in marriage and whether he may one day pop the question can be seen in his reaction to other people talking about marriage. With us now being in a world where social media network sites are thriving, talk about weddings is seen almost every day.
If his reaction is “not another wedding” or “I hate all this wedding talk” then he may not be at the point of where he is comfortable at the thought of himself getting married. If his reaction is “if I ever get married, I won’t be this obsessed about it” then you know that he hasn’t ruled out ever getting married… good news for you
If his reaction is “when I get married I won’t be this obsessed about it” then you know he has already thought about it and it is something that he sees in his future… even better news for you.
Having your guy hanging round the house with odd socks on and scruffy stubble isn’t the picture of romance you may have had in mind however he is very comfortable being around you which is a very good sign. Don’t see this behaviour as him not caring by letting himself go, it is the complete opposite.
He is so comfortable around you that he doesn’t feel the need to put on a romance act or wear a mask every day. Another sign that he is comfortable with you is if he shows a side to him that even his closest friends don’t know about such as secretly enjoying watching Disney movies or enjoying watching rom-coms.
If your man is this close to you and this relaxed around you, it may be a sign that he sees you as “the one” and will one day pop the question.
If he takes you round to see his family all the time, you feel comfortable enough to go to his family’s house on your own, or your name is on all his family party invitations then you know your man and his family see you as part of their family. If his family has already accepted you in and your man is comfortable with you being around his family, you know that the relationship certainly has a long future ahead.
You will know if his family is comfortable with you if you can carry long conversations with them and are always invited to any family gathering as a permanent fixture next to your man. This is a sure sign that one day being a part of the family will be made official by way of marriage.
Another clear sign that he will one day pop the question is if he talks about the future with you in it. Many men in relationships talk about their future but only when he talks about his future that has you in it, can it be a clear sign that he will one day pop the question.
For example if he says something like “By the time I’m 40, I will be driving around in a Ferrari”, he is just picturing himself in that scenario. If however he says “I can picture us living in a 5 bedroomed detached house in the country” you can take reassurance in it that he sees you in his future plans and that one day should lead to a marriage proposal.
Many men talk about how much they will be earning, what car they will be driving and where in their career they will be but keep a close ear to when he talks about other plans that involve you.
It happened to me and my man before he asked me to marry him. We would sometimes be watching a film or finding out a friend was pregnant and it would trigger a conversation. This conversation was never brushed aside by my man, we would sometimes joke about the name of our kids, how many we would have and what they would look like.
While I didn’t see it back then, this was a very clear sign that he seen me as being a mother to his children. Talking about kids can be a big deal for men as they don’t like to see change happen and having children may mean getting a new car more suitable for a family, moving home and change in your relationship.
However if the conversation came up naturally and he is open about it then you know that he is just as much into the relationship and future as you are.
If your man is comfortable enough to open up to you about something that is bothering him or upsetting him then it is a sign that he trusts you and values your opinion and input. Having this level of closeness is a sure sign that he sees you as “the one” and will lead to you walking down the aisle one day.
If he asks for your advice and opinion on helping him make an important decision such as whether he should take a career change or whether he should buy a new car places you as an important part of his life. As well as sharing his thoughts and decisions, sharing things such as a joint bank account or his car is another good sign that he is comfortable in the relationship and that you are an important part of his life.
As the same with talking about kids, if he ever talks about weddings and marriage then you will know he is comfortable about it which is certainly a good sign. If it just comes up in from a thought such as when watching a movie then you will he is comfortable talking about.
If however he asks you a specific question out of the blue such as “what would be the perfect engagement” or “what be our wedding dance song” you know he is planning on proposing either soon or one day in the future. Knowing that he is thinking of proposing is one thing but knowing when he will propose is something you’re just going to have to wait for. If you catch him snooping in your jewellery box though, the proposal could be imminent.
Is your man acting slightly strange or stranger than usual haha? Is he saving up for something but he keeps giving vague answers for what it is he is saving for? Before you start think that he’s up to something bad, consider that he may be up to something good. You should be able to tell by the way he is acting towards you such as being extra sweet, sensitive and caring.
He may be acting a bit giddy and excitable but won’t tell you what he’s getting himself so worked up about. I remember my man had booked us in for a meal after we had got back from holiday and he was getting strangely excited about this meal, like we’d never been on a date before, during the meal he kept going the toilet almost every 5 minutes and was a bit giddy throughout… he proposed that night.